This phrase reminds me of the conversation I had with my friend 2 years ago, when she asked me about what the Bible says about getting married. She asked me if it’s true that each person really has this ‘someone’ God has created just for him/her. It just so happened that we were just finished meditating on the Matthew as the main text for our Day in Prayer and Fasting (DIPF) so I just shared with her my insights and the things I learned from my meditation. Our main text was found in Matthew 19:1-12:
When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ ? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.” Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”
I don’t know about you, but based from what I learned from this text, it’s not true that every woman has the exact love life she wants. As what Jesus said, there are really people who are meant to be eunuchs. So what I said to my friend is that marriage is not the only and ultimate purpose of life. God’s purpose for creating us is to have an intimate, loving relationship with Him that will last for eternity. Marriage is just a means to that end. So it is really possible for some people to remain single forever because God has willed it, and because He has other purpose in mind. So even if we have this perfect love story in mind, if God does not will it, it will not happen. But we are assured that whatever it is that God has in mind, it is for our own good. His ways and thoughts are higher than ours so we can rest in the truth that His will for us is PLEASING and PERFECT.