Hi! It took me a while to write something about this post because I really can’t think of a moment when I was so full of joy for realizing the blessings of being single.
Thank God because that joyous ‘moment’ happened a few Sundays ago when we celebrated the birthday of my two girls from the children’s cell group I’m leading. Because I forgot to bring gifts for them, we decided to just eat out somewhere to celebrate.
As I spend time with these kids during our celebration, I found out that the mom of one of the birthday celebrators is just about my age. Unfortunately, their mom is no longer living with them because she already has another family. When l learned about this, I felt a little sadness and pity for my girls because at an early age, they have to suffer and experience the brokenness of this world. At the same time, I felt a little privileged because I was somehow able to give joy to these children by sharing my life to them.
It is during the moment like this that I am really grateful that I’m still single. Because I’m single, I am able to do things that I really want and at the same time to serve others. I’m not saying that I won’t be able to do this anymore when I get married. But as what Paul has said in the bible, married women have divided priorities. They need to manage and balance their time in order that they would be able to serve both their families and God.
I also realized that I’m blessed because God did not allow me to suffer the consequences of failed romantic relationships such as heartaches. He also did not allow other people to suffer because of me or because of failed relationships as in the case of my spiritual children. Of course I’m not judging their mom for leaving them. I’m sure she has reasons and I’m sure it’s not really easy for her to be separated from her own flesh and blood.
As for me, I just need to be thankful that I have an undivided time and energy to spend for the advancement of God’s kingdom and for sharing His love.